The Art of Making Choices: the Indian Context



The art of making choices is not something that a lot of us practice, we don’t usually think about why do we make the choices that we do. Sheena Iyengar tries to explain the choices that we make. There is apparently a reason behind all our choices and she says that our culture or the surroundings that we have been brought up, have a big role to play in it.

I feel that she is right and from here starts a very epic problem related to the youth of today. There is a fundamental difference between the environment that our generation has grown up in vis-a-vis our previous generations. You can call us Americanized if you want but it’s true. We have grown up under a heavy influence of American culture. But that doesn’t mean we are any less of an Indian (Read:The Identity of an Indian)

As she also says that in the American culture, its is expected that you should have a say in every choice that is going to concern you while in the Asian culture its not the same,( and when Americans say Asian they don’t include Indians 😀 ) but in this case Indian culture is also similar.

While in the ‘Indian culture’ you are not expected to be making choices un till you have white hair and  a few grandchildren. But with the advent of nuclear families, it’s a bit more relaxed now but it is still impossible to imagine Indian parents not interfering in their children’s choices.

I am not taking sides here or saying what ‘should’ be the ideal situation. I am merely trying to point out a major reason of conflict between generations. There is a clash of ideals happening but hopefully its just a transitional thing. :)

What do you think?

  • http://twitter.com/wisedonkee wise donkey

    Indian children want to make choices like their American counterparts. thats fine. time they took responsibilities like their counterparts. instead of expecting parents to sponsor their college and wedding, let them work and save for it.

    • http://www.adityakumarnayak.com Aditya Kumar Nayak

      Makes perfect sense. However, I am not sure that all american or even majority of American kids go without any financial support from their parents.

      BTW, I was not trying to say that we should be like the Americans or anything like that. Its just that we already are brought up that way, we just need to understand that our generation is just different.

  • wise donkey

    Indian children want to make choices like their American counterparts. thats fine. time they took responsibilities like their counterparts. instead of expecting parents to sponsor their college and wedding, let them work and save for it.

  • Aditya Kumar Nayak

    Makes perfect sense. However, I am not sure that all american or even majority of American kids go without any financial support from their parents.

    BTW, I was not trying to say that we should be like the Americans or anything like that. Its just that we already are brought up that way, we just need to understand that our generation is just different.